Blogger Recognition Award

In a lovely, beautiful country, in one of the prettiest spots in Europe, full of culture and bravery, lives one of the most wonderful, kindest and inspiring bloggers of our community. Naturally, I’m talking about Marina @Books Of Magic from beautiful Serbia. She is one of the finest bloggers and finest souls you’ll ever meet and you MUST all visit her blog because people like Marina are one in a million. And I am NOT exaggerating at all. She has nominated me for the Blogger Recognition Award and I cannot thank her enough for being such a good, good friend.

Rules. I love rules. Rules rule!

(…failed joke aside….Don’t judge me, I had a nice blood-waking fight today and I am feeling energetic…)

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  • Write a post to show your award.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  • Select 15 other bloggers you’d like to give this award to.
  • Comment on each blog and let them know you’ve nominated them, providing a link to the post you’ve created.

                                              How I started my blog

To be honest, what triggered my decision to start a blog was my involvement with Goodreads. Initially, I didn’t believe that anyone would want to read my reviews but writing articles and analyzing novels and Non-Fiction was a favourite hobby of mine during my university years, so I thought why not? And I let myself presume that I could occupy a little, tiny-tiny corner in the vastness that is the World Wide Web. And then, everything changed. I am an extremely introverted person and I have a few, carefully selected friends in real life but none of them is the type that would sit and discuss books with me for two hours straight, although they are occasional readers. This was the treasure I found in Goodreads. The interaction, the meaningful sharing of views and opinions, the civilized discussion.

And then, I thought that I would love to have a corner of my own (too many corners, it starts sounding like a football game…) I’d love the idea to create my very own articles with pictures and gifs and puns and my jokes that could freeze Hell, things that I can’t do in my Goodreads reviews. My decision to join NetGalley also reinforced my desire for a blog. And there it was…I created The Opinionated Reader and I haven’t regretted for a single second. Yes, it is difficult to balance the time dedicated to blogging with work and real life but where there’s a will there is a way and so far so good. (…Two adages in a row. This is a new low…)

                                             Advice to new bloggers

Oh, advice…I don’t think I am the right person to give advice to anyone. Once, my cousin had problems with her boyfriend and I told her ”punch the m—r in the nose and let him drink his blood”. Not really helpful…Don’t be afraid, I’m not always like that. Only when I am angry. Which is often because my mum handed me a short fuse on my birth but that’s okay. It helps one deal with the trolls. And the irritating, low-quality people.

The above paragraph brings me to my two points that are related to each other and concern behavioral issues.

1) Never let anyone diminish you, reprimand you or tell you that your opinion of a book was wrong or that you didn’t ”really” catch the aim of the writer.

You have your own opinion and you’re going to support it against all odds. Against every troll that thinks he/she knows better just because. Whether you will calmly explain your stance and try to make said person realize his/her mistake, it’s up to you. Personally, I’ve got limited patience with adults so I always block and delete and respond the way I’ve learnt to after years of interaction. Your opinion is sacred. Your relationship with a book is sacred. It is one of the most personal experiences in the world and noone NOONE has the right to tell you what to say, what to write, what to believe!

2) Do not oppress yourself just for the sake of appearence.

If someone bothers you, if a situation, an interaction, a person annoys you, cut every contact. Your blog is your safe haven from the anxiety, negativity and maliciousness we all face in real life. We don’t need to do the same within our book community. We don’t need to be harassed -in any way, shape and form- for our sex, for our contribution in the community, for our stance in life. If we tolerate this, if we allow those ”people” to invade our sanctum, then we’ve lost the game. So, be true. This is my advice. Be rude, if you have to. Sometimes, these people understand no other language. And believe me, if you answer back, you will frighten them. So, let yourself express your justified, holy anger on the trolls and then block them to the depths of Hell. It’s exhilarating.

This came out a bit more personal than I intended, but my 33 years on this planet have taught me that if you don’t answer, they are bound to think they’ve won. So, be true, honest and don’t let anyone dictate you what to say and feel.

TAGS:

Jennifer @Jennifertarheelreader

Grainne @Darkly Whimsical Reader

Lauren @Books Beyond the Story

Mischenko @ReadRantRock&Roll

Paula @Book Jotter

Aneela @The Mystique Reader

Callum @Callum McLaughlin

Rachel @Pace Amore Libri

Hannah @I Have Thoughts On Books

Millions and tons of thank you-s (…totally wrong, I know…) to dearest, dearest Marina and I can’t wait to read your posts.

And don’t forget, lovely people: Get the posts rolling like a fine three-point shoot and stay true!

…that was fun!

…and watching Miro is also fun, but that’s another theme for discussion…

19 Comments Add yours

  1. Thank you so much for the tag, Amalia. I may not be able to do it immediately, but please be assured, I really appreciate you thinking of me. 🤗

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    1. You’re very welcome, Paula!! Please, feel no pressure to do this:) These are the most inspiring bloggers I know and you are definitely an example for all of us:)

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      1. That’s so kind of you, Amalia. I feel really touched.

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  2. Mischenko says:

    Thanks so much for thinking of me! I loved your blog story, answers and advice. I’ll get to this soon! 💖💜💖

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    1. Thank you so much for the inspiration, Mischenko! Like Paula, you are examples we all look up to 🙂

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  3. Thank you so much for the nomination, it’s very much appreciated! 😊

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    1. You’re very welcome, Callum!

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  4. Amalia, you are so sweet! This is my first award, only 1.5 weeks in to blogging, and it came from YOU! I am honored and flattered. I may not do this right away because I’m still getting established, but please know how much the thought means to me, and also just how much your ongoing support means. 💗 💕

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    1. Thank you so much, dearest Jennifer! Please, feel no pressure to do this. It is wonderful to see how lovely a place our book community has become of late and you know how much I love your reading choices and views:)

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  5. Thank you for nominating me Amalia. I loved your answers, advice and sense of humor 😀

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    1. Thank you so much, Aneela!!

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  6. Hannah says:

    Thank you for the tag! I really loved your tipps!

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    1. Thank you so much, Hannah!

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  7. Awesome post and advice Amalia, I’m surprised to see you have a darker side haha. 😀 I have a short fuse too but I keep it all inside and that’s why I got sick by stressing out, but now I think I should listen to your advice and fight back the mother f’s. 🙂 And for the intro..you are really too kind Amalia, especially to my country haha, which is not known for its culture (if we’re talking about people). 😀

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    1. Thank you so much, Marina, for giving me the opportunity to express certain things that I felt they needed to be said. I used to keep everything bottled up and then there came a time when I said to myself ”what the heck, let’s throw some chairs and tables to the trolls” and I changed. I fight quite a lot, especially when I am commuting because there can’t be a more savage tribe than the citizens of Athens. Oh, sweet God…I have quite a few stories of horror to tell you if we ever have the time…So, my fuse is getting shorter every time I have to take the Tube or the train. It is rude people that I cannot stand and we have far too many in Athens…

      I have a plethora of fond memories from Belgrade and I love Serbian Literature, so the intro is just God’s honest truth.

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      1. Express away, I think I ought to too. 🙂 Well I’m sure I’ll have fond memories of Greece once I visit there, but rest assured we have the same savage tribe here with quite a lot of bizarre stories 😀 Too bad you have to deal with such people daily, but you can at least let out some steam here. 🙂

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      2. Definitely! I always tell my mum that one day she’s going to receive a phone call from the police and I’ll be waiting there, hand-cuffed. 😧

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  8. I love your advice! Thank you for tagging me!!!

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    1. Thank you so much, Grainne!! And you’re very welcome:)

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